I recently started dating someone, and Valentine’s Day is coming up. Is it too soon to celebrate the day together, and if not, what’s a low-pressure way to make it special without putting too much pressure on the new relationship?
Signed, fairly new
It’s never too soon to show someone that you like them! I know it’s easy to not want to feel like you are doing too much too soon. Honestly it’s become a habit in our culture to hide how you’re feeling or for someone so you’re not seen as vulnerable. If you think you could actually see a future with this person then I say you should get them a gift! If you’re looking for something low pressure I would say a handwritten and a handmade card. It’s low pressure but also very thoughtful because you had to take the time to make it. You can add a stuffed animal and some flowers – whatever works for you! As long as your intentions aren’t to put pressure on the relationship, any gift will work.
“I have a crush on someone in my class, and I’m considering expressing my feelings on Valentine’s Day. Any advice on how to keep it casual and fun without making things awkward if they don’t feel the same way?”
Signed, Crushing
To be frank, it seems there is no way to do this casually, especially if you guys aren’t necessarily friends. But I do applaud you for having the courage to confess your feelings to them. There are about two ways this can go; they either like you back and see potential or they don’t like you either way it’s better to know than not to know how they feel. To confess, do something very simple, even as simple as walking up to them and saying you think they’re cool and you would like to get to know them more. Ask them if they have any Valentine’s Day plans and if not you should invite them to dinner or hangout. If they don’t feel the same way that’s perfectly fine there will be someone else who does feel the same way one day.
There’s this girl I kind of like and I know she really likes me. I’m not exactly sure if I see a future with her but Valentine’s Day is coming up and I think she’s expecting me to do something for her… how do I let her down gently?
Signed, not exactly interested
It kind of sounds like you’re not sure how you feel which can seem like you’re leading her on…So I would say most and foremost tell her the truth. Sit her down like the adults that we are and say that you’re not exactly sure where you stand on pursuing this relationship. You don’t have to use Valentine’s Day, a day meant for love, to show her that you don’t want a relationship. That could taint ruin a day meant for love. Make sure express how you’re feeling in a gentle manner.
